There’s only so much sand left dropping in my hourglass.
When I was younger, I wasted so much time obsessing over matters I couldn’t control. Not anymore. Here are seven things I no longer worry a whit about now that I’m over 60.
1. A waning libido.
My husband and I have been married 21 years. For the first several years of our marriage, I’d worry myself silly every time my spouse and I went longer than a week without having sex. I now know that there is no such thing as a “normal” level of sexual desire and in fact it is not unusual these days for women to forgo sex completely. They have better things to do.
2. My handbag
When I was younger, I wouldn’t have been caught dead carrying the same handbag for longer than a few months at a time. It’s a different story now that I’m beyond 60. The bag I’m using now is the same one I was using a year ago. (At least I think it is.) It’s comfortable. It has lots of pockets. It works for me and my lifestyle. Oh, and it’s black so it goes with pretty much everything. I’d rather spend the money on a new pair of jeans.
3. My shoes.
Sticking with the fashion theme, I no longer care about wearing stylish shoes that are uncomfortable. And that means I no longer care about wearing heels of any height. Feet that have been tortured in past years no longer cope with spikey heels and pointed toes. If they aren’t comfortable ― or they make me feel wobbly ― I’m not wearing them.
4. That it’s never too late to think of, or consider a ‘new career’ or starting your own business. About four years ago the idea came to me to design a website dedicated to presenting articles and encouraging discussions of interest to NZ’s women of a ‘certain age’.
This has not been without its’ challenges, but with the fortitude women our age are renown for I pressed ahead anyway.
My credentials…absolutely none in this area, but I would never let a lack of skills get in the way of my passion for a great idea. It’s never too late to learn and up-skill.
5. Guilty pleasures.
I no longer care if it’s weird that I still love Jimi Hendrix and Led Zepplin, or that I can devour an entire bag of salt and vinegar chips in one sitting. Nor do I care what people think that I had a tattoo done in my 60’s and am thinking of adding to the gallery. I probably still shop too much when I should be saving for my ‘retirement’.
Lastly, I went ahead and booked an overseas trip…on my credit card…Now THAT is a guilty pleasure. My justification for all this….I still work full-time and I could be hit by a bus tomorrow!
6. Spending time with people I really don’t like all that much.
I used to be such a people pleaser that I’d accept almost every lunch or dinner invitation, even if the person presenting it wasn’t really someone I wanted to spend time with. I don’t chase people anymore. There’s a great quote I often see on Pinterest but am not sure who first said it: “I’ll never fight for someone’s attention. Either I have it, or I don’t.”
That pretty much sums up the way I feel these days. There’s only so much sand left dropping in my hourglass, which is why I now only spend time with people I really REALLY want to be around.
7. Going out.
I have to admit that, I still love going out and having a great time, but usually for an occasion like a birthday or celebration with family or close friends. But, the drink driving rules now make it tricky, so it’s easier just to stay home and have people over to stay.
Also while it’s still fun to go out ― there’s nothing better than watching a movie and having a glass or three of wine with my husband and children, or friends.